Fight or Flight?

In every persons life there are good times and there are bad times. It is in human nature that we all have that fight or flight response. Since I can remember the people around me taught me that when the going gets tough the tough get going. Whether it was figuratively or what really did happen. So as I have gotten older I have learn to talk or work myself out of situations and in simplest terms run away. But when in life is it time to stand up and fight? 

For those that know me , and truly know me I have done a real good job of making a mess out of things. I have not always been up front and tend to make a little thing become one of monstrous proportions. I am real good at never showing  what I am really feeling or what really may be going on. But in the last year or so I have met someone that doesn't let me get away with that. They force me to be upfront no bull shit. 

Confrontation has never been my strong suit. When put in a situation that i was not comfortable with I did one of two things, got physical or walked away and never talked to said party again. But this person doesn't let me do that. They have taught me ( threw there own personal experiences) that it is better to face something head on and responsibly then to let it brew. When you let it brew it bites you in the ass and hard. 

They have not had the best year and a half and from that i have learned a lot. Instead of sitting back and hiding this person has face stuff head on that would have sent me running for the hills. They have been dragged threw the mud, shit what ever you want to call it and even when it seemed that rolling over and giving up was the only option, they came up shit eating grin on there face and said "Bring it on!" For that i am shocked and impressed and also envious. 

I will be honest, before i met this person and their family I was plotting my great escape. I had been dealing with issues that made me want to find something better. A new place, a new start , a place where no one knew me and I could have a re- do. But i have learned that the answer does not lie in running away from your problems but from facing them head on, and for that lesson i am forever in this persons debt. 

They have taught me that it is the little things in life that are worth living and working for. They have taught me that to have the relationships that you want and that make you happy you have to be honest.

It is human nature to have that Fight or Flight response. But running away isn't always the answer....